How To Avoid the “I Want” Syndrome
Children are known for lighting up the lives of everyone around them with their gentle spirits. That same gentle spirit, however, can turn quite violent when a child complains because he wants something. For parents trying to handle children affected by the all too well known I Want syndrome, the tips in this article should prove useful.
Don’t think of it as cute behavior. Parents easily fall into this trap. When a child is young and they throw a temper tantrum over a toy in the store, we see it as a phase and call it cute. Most parents indulge the child so they won’t die of embarrassment. This is a no-no!
Keep in mind that a childs mind learns at a tremendously rapid pace. If a child finds that throwing an awful tantrum is the way to get what he or she wants, this behavior will make itself into a deeply entrenched bad habit that only becomes harder to break as time goes on.
Giving children a weekly allowance can help. Since children receive everything they have from their parents, the parents money appears to them to be theirs as well. While household payments and purchases are made by Mom and Dad, it doesnt mean that a childs every desire has to be fulfilled by them as well.
An allowance gives kids something they never had before: their own money. A child that understands money will be fascinated. As the money grows from week to week, share with them how saving money allows them to afford toys that they buy themselves.
By nature, children imitate their parents. Impulsive purchasing and other bad financial habits are sure to be copied, so have family meetings to discuss finances and make the children a part of the familys budget.
Learning that money doesnt grow on trees is a vital lesson. When parents teach their children about how saving money will work out to their own benefit, the kids get a step ahead in life. Parents can explain how saving money helps the entire family. For example, the family must save to go on vacations.
Teach a life lesson. Kids will want things. They learn how to share and not be greedy from you. Teach them the lesson of “less expensive” early on in their lives. When their allowance is small, take your kids to the dollar store for their money-spending excursions.
Television commercials prompt kids to ask about the latest doll or a monster truck. Don’t blow them off by saying,”We will see about it later.” Kids will take that as an affirmative answer. Instead, offer the idea of putting that toy on their Christmas or birthday wish list. Even better, encourage them to save and buy it with their own money.
Kids are a blank slate. They believe that they are entitled to whatever they see and want. You can change this behavior through the tips above.